In the spirit of the holiday season and families and friends (both new and old) coming together, many of us will be sharing, or maybe starting, holiday traditions. From those we have been celebrating with our families for generations to those we have created on our own with friends, they bring us together and make many special memories. The link between traditions and etiquette may not be apparent, but I have a few important thoughts worth sharing:
- Participate in the cheesy stuff! You may think you have grown up too much to do the childish activities, but trust me you have not. The smile it will put on your parents’ or grandparents’ faces is well worth it! Plus, it is your job to teach the next generation!
- Include others in your traditions. If you have a significant other or friend spending the holidays with you, be sure they are included in the fun. Teach them about what your family does, how it came to be a tradition, and have them fully participate in the festivities.
- If you are not able to spend the holidays with your family, ask the people you will be with if you can share your tradition with them. Whether it is eating a certain dish, singing a certain song, or a certain activity you always do, most hosts will welcome your addition. Just be sure not to take over the occasion and be respectful of the traditions already in place.
- Be respectful of making changing to existing traditions. If you have an idea of how to “enhance” a current tradition, be sure to speak with those who started it or those who rank “most senior” in the family/group. Perhaps they go about the tradition a certain way for a reason you do not know or they feel strongly attached to the way it has always been done. It is important to speak to everyone involved before making a decision which will effect the entire family/group.
As I get ready to celebrate my traditional Italian Christmas Eve, I know I am blessed to have family, friends, and loved ones celebrate with me. Cherish these moments and enjoy them!
Merry Christmas, y’all!